Sexual self_awareness is hot.
People who are connected to their sexuality feel stronger, more confident and optimistic. They are more attractive, because they bloom and glow from the inside. That glow, that is the connection to one’s own erotic self. For many, a long needed revolution: to trust that the body is a source of knowledge and energy. I want to bring these revolutions into every single living room. That’s why I’m a sex educator.
I have been a sex worker and sex educator for over 10 years; escorting people on their journey into their sexual desires, their depths, their feelings, their questions, their ecstasy and their lust.
Visiting a sex worker can be mindblowing, healing, insightful, and can make you very happy. With sex workers people, sometimes for the first time in their lives, dare to not only to talk about their sexual desires, but to actually fulfill them.
Self_aware : Sex is breaking through.
This breakthrough frequently has an impact on our whole life Often people tell me after sessions and workshops, they are experiencing a strong change in their relationship, which had been at a standstill for a long time. Or they break up. Or, if they are single, they suddenly meet someone.
Some report losing weight, some quit their job and move to their dream job, others feel tremendous life energy and just feel lighter and happier, more in the flow. These are not exaggerations or advertising slogans. I myself am always amazed at what this work can do.
Actually, it’s quite simple: having one’s desires set in motion, feeling pleasure and being in touch gives joy of life and a sense of self-efficacy.
People who are connected to their sexuality feel stronger, more confident and optimistic. They are more attractive, because they bloom and glow from the inside. These changes are independent of a partner. That glow, that is the connection to one’s own erotic self.
I’ve worked with hundreds of people ranging in age from 20 to 70+ for the past 10 years, and I’ve been amazed time and time again at what this shift can do, and that vibrant, joyful sexuality is not a luxury item, but a human right.
In doing so, I realized how many people are not connected to their sexual power, not working with their sexual potential, which is such a precious source of life energy.
From my experience I can say: On the one hand we live in a hypersexualized world; surrounded by eroticized advertising, a provocative flood of images, self-optimized selfies and porn available everywhere. On the other hand, we are confronted with a disturbing inability to feel our needs, to hear and regulate the signals of our bodies, to feel and deal with our own feelings, to know and love our erotic selves.
I have therefore decided not only to be a sex worker but also a sex educator. I want to help people take control of their own sexual lives in a self-determined and courageous way, instead of feeling that truly deep and ecstatic experiences are rare natural events that only happen to you if you are very lucky. I want people to understand how they can create this sensual happiness themselves.
Our minds are filled with images and fantasies of how we should be sexually or what mindblowing sex is. While we do not have the courage to embody ourselves, to stand by our own pleasure as it shows itself, and to bring it into contact with dignity and joy.
A divide of guilt and shame often opens up between these two worlds. Uncertainty. The worry of not being right, of not being normal, of not being enough, of not being attractive. Behind these insecurities, in turn, are other, deeper feelings. Like the fear of being rejected, of being too much, or just not knowing what good, satisfying, sexy contact with another person can feel like.
Many people, especially women, have a background of trauma or abusive moments in their sexual biography. It is a very special piece of work to reappropriate and reclaim one’s own sexuality.
Sex free from scripts: but how?
In my sessions and workshops, I offer experiential spaces where people have the opportunity to study and fully embrace their sensual being “from the ground up” – free from the scripts of sex we’ve learned in magazines, early evening shows, porn, or church.
Where can we really learn about our sexuality? Our bodies are the best resource we have.
A fulfilled sexuality can make us more peaceful, empathetic and satisfied. An universal commitment to sensuality could save our world. If we had respect for our bodies, honored, nurtured and honestly cared for them instead of just going after their resources and optimizing them, we might do similarly with the earth.
Listening to your body makes you happy in a very simple and effective way. Signaling to the body that it is not false, but is a source of knowledge, of pleasure , of joy and of insight, is a long overdue revolution for many people.
I want to bring these revolutions into every single living room. I no longer want to limit this learning and the bliss people feel, when they start to feel themselves and come into their sexual and sensual lives, to the number of participants in a live workshop.
Deshalb habe ich mein Online-Training *S*EXPLORATIONS entwickelt.
Sex Online? Geht es nicht gerade um Berührung?
Ich weiß, dass manche Menschen sich auch nach Jahren nicht trauen, eine Session oder einen Workshop bei mir zu buchen. Die Gründe sind vielfältig.
Manche können sich aufgrund der Anreise oder anderer Barrieren nicht zu einem Vorort-Workshop bewegen.
Manche haben Sorge, sich in einer – wenn auch kleinen – Öffentlichkeit so nackt und intim zu zeigen. Ein Pulk leicht oder nicht bekleideter Menschen, die gemeinsam atmen und sich berühren, ist für manche ein feuchter Traum, für andere der Horror. Für einige sind solche Erfahrungen mit anderen im Workshop schlicht eine Überflutung an Sinnesreizen und damit eine Überforderung, die Lernen unmöglich macht.
Lernen im Netz hat in den letzten Jahren, vor allem mit Corona, enorm zugenommen. Auch ich habe meine Meinung über das E-Learning revidiert. Ich schätze nun, dass ich mich ganz mit mir auf eine Sache konzentrieren kann um zu lernen. Mein Sex ist so intim und so nah bei mir, und dies ist die beste Gelegenheit, ihn ohne störende Einflüsse ganz mit mir zu zelebrieren und zu erfahren. Ich kann mich ganz auf meine eigenen Wünsche , Empfindungen und Gefühle einlassen.
Workshops können ein toller Ort sein, um hoch zu fliegen und gigantische Durchbrüche zu erleben. Zurück zuhause stellt sich manchmal die Frage, wie das Ganze ins eigene Alltagsleben integriert werden kann. Manchmal folgt ein „Drop“ und das Gefühl, als sei das nur ein Traum gewesen und habe nichts mit dem eigenen Leben zu tun.
Im Online-Training startest Du jeden Schritt ganz bei Dir und bist dennoch in die Gruppe eingebettet. Du erhältst Unterstützung von mir, meinem Team und Deinen Mitreisenden. Bei den Übungen, die Partner*innen erfordern, kannst du Dich in der Gruppe der Mitreisenden organisieren.
Viele Menschen, vor allem die mit weiblicher Sozialisation, können in Begegnungen schnell nicht mehr auseinanderhalten, ob sie sich selbst fühlen oder bereits in jemand anderen eingefühlt haben und ganz automatisch versuchen, dass es der anderen Person, anstatt ihnen selbst, gut geht.
Es ist ein tolles Lernfeld, sich radikal auf sich selbst zu konzentrieren, wenn es um den eigenen Sex geht. Natürlich soll Dein Sex nicht für immer nur mit Dir stattfinden. In meinem Training gibt es zahlreiche Partner*innen-Übungen.
Doch was ist die Basis für Begegnungen mit anderen? Richtig: Bei sich sein. Wenn ich bei mir bin, kann ich Dir begegnen.
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