Sexual self_awareness is hot.
People who are connected to their sexuality feel stronger, more confident and optimistic. They are more attractive, because they bloom and glow from the inside. That glow, that is the connection to one’s own erotic self. For many, a long needed revolution: to trust that the body is a source of knowledge and energy. I want to bring these revolutions into every single living room. That’s why I’m a sex educator.
I have been a sex worker and sex educator for over 10 years; escorting people on their journey into their sexual desires, their depths, their feelings, their questions, their ecstasy and their lust.
Visiting a sex worker can be mindblowing, healing, insightful, and can make you very happy. With sex workers people, sometimes for the first time in their lives, dare to not only to talk about their sexual desires, but to actually fulfill them.
Self_aware : Sex is breaking through.
This breakthrough frequently has an impact on our whole life Often people tell me after sessions and workshops, they are experiencing a strong change in their relationship, which had been at a standstill for a long time. Or they break up. Or, if they are single, they suddenly meet someone.
Some report losing weight, some quit their job and move to their dream job, others feel tremendous life energy and just feel lighter and happier, more in the flow. These are not exaggerations or advertising slogans. I myself am always amazed at what this work can do.
Actually, it’s quite simple: having one’s desires set in motion, feeling pleasure and being in touch gives joy of life and a sense of self-efficacy.
People who are connected to their sexuality feel stronger, more confident and optimistic. They are more attractive, because they bloom and glow from the inside. These changes are independent of a partner. That glow, that is the connection to one’s own erotic self.
I’ve worked with hundreds of people ranging in age from 20 to 70+ for the past 10 years, and I’ve been amazed time and time again at what this shift can do, and that vibrant, joyful sexuality is not a luxury item, but a human right.
In doing so, I realized how many people are not connected to their sexual power, not working with their sexual potential, which is such a precious source of life energy.
From my experience I can say: On the one hand we live in a hypersexualized world; surrounded by eroticized advertising, a provocative flood of images, self-optimized selfies and porn available everywhere. On the other hand, we are confronted with a disturbing inability to feel our needs, to hear and regulate the signals of our bodies, to feel and deal with our own feelings, to know and love our erotic selves.
I have therefore decided not only to be a sex worker but also a sex educator. I want to help people take control of their own sexual lives in a self-determined and courageous way, instead of feeling that truly deep and ecstatic experiences are rare natural events that only happen to you if you are very lucky. I want people to understand how they can create this sensual happiness themselves.
Our minds are filled with images and fantasies of how we should be sexually or what mindblowing sex is. While we do not have the courage to embody ourselves, to stand by our own pleasure as it shows itself, and to bring it into contact with dignity and joy.
A divide of guilt and shame often opens up between these two worlds. Uncertainty. The worry of not being right, of not being normal, of not being enough, of not being attractive. Behind these insecurities, in turn, are other, deeper feelings. Like the fear of being rejected, of being too much, or just not knowing what good, satisfying, sexy contact with another person can feel like.
Many people, especially women, have a background of trauma or abusive moments in their sexual biography. It is a very special piece of work to reappropriate and reclaim one’s own sexuality.
Sex free from scripts: but how?
In my sessions and workshops, I offer experiential spaces where people have the opportunity to study and fully embrace their sensual being “from the ground up” – free from the scripts of sex we’ve learned in magazines, early evening shows, porn, or church.
Where can we really learn about our sexuality? Our bodies are the best resource we have.
A fulfilled sexuality can make us more peaceful, empathetic and satisfied. An universal commitment to sensuality could save our world. If we had respect for our bodies, honored, nurtured and honestly cared for them instead of just going after their resources and optimizing them, we might do similarly with the earth.
Listening to your body makes you happy in a very simple and effective way. Signaling to the body that it is not false, but is a source of knowledge, of pleasure , of joy and of insight, is a long overdue revolution for many people.
I want to bring these revolutions into every single living room. I no longer want to limit this learning and the bliss people feel, when they start to feel themselves and come into their sexual and sensual lives, to the number of participants in a live workshop.
That’s why I developed my online training *S*EXPLORATIONS, the first cycle of which will start in a few days.
Sex online? Isn’t it all about touch?
I know that some people are reluctant to book a session or workshop with me, even after years. The reasons are many and varied.
Some can’t visit an on-site workshop because of travel- or other barriers.
Some are worried about being so naked and intimate in a public setting, albeit a small one. A throng of lightly or unclothed people breathing and touching together is a wet dream for some, horror for others. For some, such experiences with others in the workshop are simply sensory overload, making learning impossible.
Online-Lerning has grown tremendously in recent years, especially with Corona. I, too, have revised my opinion of e-learning. I now appreciate how it can help me focus entirely on myself and what I want to learn. My sex is so intimate and so close to me, and this is the best opportunity to celebrate and experience it without any distracting influences. I can fully engage with my own desires , sensations and feelings.
Workshops can be a great place to fly high and experience gigantic breakthroughs. Back home, sometimes the question arises how to integrate the whole thing into one’s own daily life. Sometimes a “drop” follows and the feeling as if it was just a dream and has nothing to do with your own life.
In the online training you start each step completely with yourself and yet you are integrated into the group. You receive support from me, my team and your fellow travelers. For the exercises that require partners, you can organize yourself in the group of fellow travelers.
Many people, especially those with female socialization, quickly become unable to distinguish in encounters whether they are feeling themselves or have already empathized with someone else and quite automatically try to make the other person, rather than themselves, feel good.
It’s a great learning ground to radically focus on yourself when it comes to your own sex. Of course, your sex is not obligated to be with just you forever. In my training there are numerous partner exercises.
But what is the basis for encounters with others? Right: Being with yourself. When I am with myself, I can meet you.
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